Category Archives: personal development

L 770

Get the ACTION Habit

Got a good idea? Then do something about it. Use action to cure fear and gain confidence. Action feeds and strengthens confidence, inaction in all forms feeds fear. Every big job requires a man who thinks ACTION, i.e. ability to get things done, to get results.

Excellent ideas are not enough. An only fair idea acted upon and developed, is 100% better than a terrific idea that dies because it isn’t followed up. Think of it. Everything we have in this world, from satellites to sky scrappers to baby food is just an idea acted upon. Mr. Activationist gets the things done he wants done, and as by-products he gains confidence, a feeling of inner security, self reliance and more income. Mr. Passivationist is a don’ter. He postpones doing things until he has proved he shouldn’t or can’t do them or until it’s too late.

Ideas are important. We must have ideas to create and improve anything. Ideas in themselves are not enough. An idea is of value only when it is acted upon, else they will be buried deep down into the mental graveyard. First, give your ideas value by acting upon them. Second, act on your ideas and gain mind tranquility. Someone once said that the saddest words of tongue or pen are these: it might have been.

To fight fear – ACT. To increase fear – wait, put off, postpone. A good idea if not acted upon produces terrible psychological pain. But a good idea acted upon brings enormous mental satisfaction. To wait for the perfect set of conditions is to wait forever. In every big decision the mind battles with itself – to act or not to act, to do or not to do. It’s a good advice to cross bridges as we come to them.

Make up your mind to do something about your ideas. Expect future obstacles and difficulties. Every venture presents risks, problems and uncertainties. Meet problems and obstacles as they arise. The test of a successful person is not the ability to eliminate all the problems before he takes action, but rather the ability to find solutions to difficulties when he encounters them, i.e. cross bridges when you come to them.

Only cure for stage fright is action. Getting right out there before the audience is the cure for dread, worry and fear. Waiting ever makes the experts nervous. On a trip to jump site a trainee thought too much about what may happen and panicked. The jump really isn’t too bad. it’s the waiting to jump that gets a fellow into fear. Nothing comes merely by thinking about it. To wait for the perfect set of conditions is to wait forever. So what’s stopping you. Get into ACTION.

L 765

Why personal branding is important?

You cannot NOT Communicate. Your appearance will communicate definitely something about you.

There is nothing as neutral clothing. Whether you choose to wear something or you choose not to wear something, it will communicate something about you. That’s why first impression are always important.

Your appearance creates your image. Your image is everything you do in this world. Another name for image is your Personal Brand.

L 752

One at a time. The 100%

What does that mean?

It’s the secret to success. We have a tendency to start various projects or tasks and work on them with completion at different stages. Sometimes leaving the project midway as close to 99% and keep hopping to another one that interests you.

Change your working style. Make it a habit to finish the project single mindedly upto 100%, you have taken and then only proceed with the other one. It will give you a feel of success and step by step you will proceed towards success.

Start applying this mantra and you will feel accomplished.

L 750

Grow BIG by Thinking Big.

Remember, It pays in every way to think BIG.

Don’t sell yourself short. You’re better than you think you are.

Stretch your vision. See what can be, not just what is. Practice adding value to things, people and to yourself.

Use the big thinker’s vocabulary. Use big, bright, cheerful words that promise victory, hope, happiness, pleasure. Avoid words that creat unpleasant images.

Get the big view of your job.

Think above trivial things. Ask yourself, “Is it really important?” Focus your attention on big objectives.

Learning 663

Having a better life starts with practicing self-discipline and developing the habit of delayed gratification.

Delayed gratification is the process of scheduling the pain and pleasure of life.

Let’s say you struggle with procrastination. Who among us hasn’t tackled the easy work first and then spent the rest of the day struggling with the boring and difficult stuff?

The author had a patient with this exact problem, and he advised her to start practicing delayed gratification by reversing her work habits.

This meant bearing down and dealing with the difficult stuff first. So instead of facing one easy hour followed by six miserable hours of dragging her feet, she could have one miserable hour followed by the reward of six enjoyable hours.

Discipline also means accepting responsibility, being truthful and striking a healthy balance in life.

Delayed gratification is just one of the tools that will help you bring discipline to your life.

Real self-discipline also requires that you accept responsibility for your own life.

Another tool that can improve your self-discipline is a dedication to truth, meaning that you honestly and openly face the reality of your life.

Now, this can be a tough one since it requires that you have a strong sense of self-reflection and be willing to constantly update your worldview.

Being open to self-analysis, and reflecting honestly on life, are part and parcel of personal growth.

The final tool for better discipline is balancing.
It means letting go and giving up the unhealthy habits and extreme behaviors that are throwing your life out of balance. These are things you may do because they add a thrill to your life, but which, in the end, tend not to turn out well.

Love is closely linked to our spiritual growth and self-discipline. Much has been written and said about the nature of love, but put simply, love is having the will to nurture your own spiritual growth, as well as that of someone else.

In this way, you can look at love as an important part of your evolution, since spiritual growth is about reaching a larger state of being.

It’s also important to understand that before you can love someone else, you first need to love yourself. It’s similar to a parent teaching a child how to behave in a disciplined manner. For this to happen, the parent must practice this discipline themselves.

To love someone means making an effort. It requires more than a mere desire to love. Most people desire, or want, to love, but few are in fact loving. Those with the will to grow spiritually have chosen to love and therefore they act lovingly.

Love is not a feeling but an action that requires attention and comes with risks. The feeling of love is related to cathecting, which means investing emotional energy in something or someone.

Love can even exist without that feeling we always associate with it, since true love is bigger than cathecting. In a well-functioning marriage, disagreements can happen, and tempers can flare, but the partners continue to work in tandem toward their goals. These are two people who made a commitment through their own volition, and that’s more important than any fleeting emotions.

However, for love to flourish it needs more than a commitment – it requires attention and the understanding that it can be lost.

Loving someone means giving them attention and supporting their growth. And this requires putting aside everything else to truly listen and concentrate on what your loved one is saying and experiencing. When you do this, you extend yourself and gain new knowledge about the person you love. But remember, you can’t love someone without the risk of losing them.

Learning 659

Most  important  principle  for  anyone  seeking to  attain  their  goals and  to  fulfill  their  life’s purpose is “you  will  never  be  able  to  hit a target  that  you  cannot  see.”

People  spend  their  whole  lives dreaming of becoming happier, living  with  more  vitality and  having an  abundance  of  passion.  

Yet  they  do  not  see  the  importance  of taking even  ten  minutes  a  month  to  write  out  their goals  and  to think  deeply  about  the  meaning  of their lives, their Dharma. Goal setting will make your life magnificent. Your world will become richer, more delightful and more magical.

Goal-setting is  not  just  for  distinguished  people who  reside  in a  world  full  of  material  attractions.  Anyone  who  wishes  to  improve the  quality  of  their  inner  as  well  as  their  outer  worlds  would  do well  to  take  out  a  piece  of  paper  and  start  writing  out  their  life aims.  At  the  very  moment  that  this  is  done,  natural  forces  will come  into  play  which  start  to  transform  these  dreams  into  reality.

Learning 657

Thoughts  are  vital,  living things,  little  bundles of  energy,  if  you  will.  

Most  people  don’t  give any  thought  to  the nature  of  their  thoughts  and  yet,  the  quality of your  thinking  determines  the  quality  of your  life.  

Thoughts  are just  as  much  a  part  of  the material  world  as  the  lake  you  swim  in or the street  you  walk  on.  Weak  minds  lead  to weak  actions.  

A strong,  disciplined  mind,  which  anyone  can cultivate  through  daily practice,  can  achieve miracles.  

If  you  want  to  live  life  to  the  fullest, care  for your  thoughts  as  you  would  your  most prized  possessions.

Work  hard  to  remove  all  inner  turbulence. The  rewards  will  be abundant.

Learning 656

The  secret  of  happiness  is  simple:  find  out what you truly  love to do and then direct all of your energy towards doing it.  

If  you  study  the  happiest,  healthiest,  most  satisfied  people  of our  world,  you  will  see  that  each  and  every  one  of  them  has  found their  passion  in  life,  and  then  spent  their  days  pursuing  it.  

This calling  is  almost  always  one  that,  in  some  way,  serves  others.  Once you  are  concentrating  your  mind  power  and  energy  on  a  pursuit that  you  love,  abundance  flows  into  your  life,  and  all  your  desires are  fulfilled  with  ease  and  grace.” 

“So  simply  figure  out  what  turns  you  on  and  then  do  it?” 

Victor  Frankl  said  it  more  elegantly  when  he  wrote:  ‘Success,  like  happiness,  cannot  be pursued.  It  must  ensue.  And  it  only  does  so  as  the  unintended  side effect  of  one’s  personal  dedication  to  a  cause  greater  than  oneself.’ 

Once  you  find  out  what  your  life’s  work  is,  your  world  will  come alive.  You  will  wake  up  every  morning  with  a  limitless  reservoir  of energy  and  enthusiasm.  

All  your  thoughts  will  be  focused  on  your definite  objective.  You  won’t  have  time  to  waste  time.  

Valuable mental  power  will,  therefore,  not  be  wasted  on  trifling  thoughts. You  will  automatically  erase  the  worry  habit  and  become  far  more effective  and  productive.  

Interestingly,  you  will  also  have  a  deep sense  of  inner  harmony,  as  if  you  are  somehow  being  guided  to realize  your  mission.  It  is  a  wonderful  feeling. 

Learning 650

Stop  judging  events  as  either positive  or negative.  Rather,  simply  experience  them, celebrate them  and  learn  from  them.  

Every  event  offers  you  lessons.  These little lessons  fuel  your  inner  and  outer  growth. Without  them,  you would  be  stuck  on  a plateau. 

Just  think  about  it  in  your  own  life. Most people  have  grown  the  most  from  their  most challenging experiences.  

If  you  meet  with  an  outcome  you  did  not expect and  feel  a  little  disappointed, remember  that  the  laws  of  nature always ensure  that  when  one  door  closes  another opens.

Once  you  consistently  apply  this  principle  to your  daily  life  and start  to  condition  your mind  to  translate  every  event  into  a positive, empowering  one,  you  will  banish  worry forever.  You  will stop  being  a  prisoner  of your  past.  Instead,  you  will  become  the architect  of  your  future.

Learning 649

“Your  I can  is  more  important  than  your  I.Q.”
When  you  form  the  habit  of  searching  for  the  positive  in  every circumstance,  your  life  will  move  into  its  highest  dimensions.  This is  one  of  the  greatest  of  all  the  natural  laws.

And  it  all  starts  with  using  your  mind  more  effectively.

All  success  in  life,  whether  material  or spiritual,  starts  with  that  twelve-pound  mass  sitting  between  your shoulders.  Or  more  specifically,  with  the  thoughts  that  you  put  into your  mind  every  second  of  every  minute  of  every  day.  Your  outer world  reflects  the  state  of  your  inner  world.  By  controlling  the thoughts  that  you  think  and  the  way  you  respond  to  the  events  of your  life,  you  begin  to  control  your  destiny.

Learning 602

Educate yourself into the areas that you fear most. Read the biographies of people who have walked the path before you. Step into their mindsets and see how they did what they did.

The 10 Minutes Mantra 

*Turn your life in just 10 minutes*
My dad once told me : “You can apply the 10 minutes mantra to turn around your life in a tremendous way.”
I didn’t understand at first. “What’s the big deal in 10 minutes?” I asked.
“There’s indeed a big deal about it. 10 minutes, believe me son, can create a marvellous difference in our life,” my dad offered wisely.
“Elaborate please, dad,”
“I’ll tell you. But first, you’ve to get up tomorrow at 6.00 am.” My dad conditioned. I agreed.
Next day, as I woke up at the agreed time, my dad came to my room.
“What’s the time?”
“6.00 am” I replied.
“Okay, so before you can follow the 10 minutes mantra, you have to “follow the art of being aware about the clock,”
I was confused. My dad continued, “Look at the clock. It’s 6.00 am. Now within 10 minutes I ask you to do the following – Arrange your bed and your table; drink two glasses of water, wash your face and brush your teeth. But keep looking at your clock while doing these. That’s it”
“Well…Okay,” I said, thinking what could be the catch my dad wanted me to capture.
I began and started doing all he asked. All the time, I kept glancing at the wall clock. Finally after 10 minutes (or 30 seconds earlier to be exact) I had finished it all.
“Well done, boy. You have turned around your life!” My dad praised, patting on my back.
“What?” I was astonished and puzzled, unable to grasp, and asked earnestly “I didn’t get you, dad.”
 “Think, son, think!” My dad urged, “Recall your earlier days. How did your day started off?”
I racked my brains and pondered over. Usually, I wake up at 6.00 am. Then, I wander off, yawning lazily and even sleep for some more minutes or sit idly on my chair, my thoughts in thousand directions. And, by the time I finish the above activities, it was already past 7.00 am.
“And today, it’s just 6.10 am” my dad said as if he read my mind.
“Yes!” I exclaimed, starting to understand.
“So what made you do it?” my dad asked.
I thought. What made me do it? Because my dad told me to do? No, no. There was more to it. And then it hit me.
*“ The art of being aware about the clock!”* I almost shouted.

“Yes and also ten minutes.” My dad said, smiling at my wonderstruck face.
My dad explained: “By setting your eyes on the clock and thinking about 10 minutes, your mind got *focused* in that span of 10 minutes. It was just like a deadline or a due date. *The10 minutesdeadline kept your mind in the present; in the “NOW ” and prevented you from wandering off.”*
I was impressed. Just a matter of meagre 10 minutes had such a mighty effect! I had completed all those routine activities on time.  Now, I felt I have so much time ahead (as compared to 7.00am, it was just 6.10 am!). With so much time saved, I could work on creative and productive activities, instead of loitering around aimlessly. *Time is indeed, the most precious thing on earth.*
 A question piqued my curiosity, “Dad, why only 10 minutes. Why can’t we divide our activities into 1 hour slots?”
“Good question,” my dad said, “we can. But Shorter the time, *more productive* you will get. Imagine, if I told you to do those routine activities in 1 hour? Your mind will make your actions slower because you’ll think you have enough time to do it. Even if an activity takes 1 hour, you can segment it into 10 minutes slots.”
“Give an example,” I was eager to know more.
“You can, for instance, segment your workout time,” my dad resumed. “10 minutes- warm-up; 10 minutes- stretching and 10 minutes-yoga,”
“Really amazing, dad; this 10 minutes stuff can make your life on a roll! Instead of long bouts of inactivity, once can benefit from the short bursts of creativity!”
“Yes. The 10 minutes stuff is just an idea. You can also make it 15 minutes or 20 minutes but not longer than that.” My dad paused and continued :
“The 10 minutes mantra can be applied in every aspect of life. A student, a professional, a businessman or anyone can apply this simple but successful technique. Take an example of student. The student can allot 10 minutes time for a topic. After that, he/she can take 2 minutes rest and resume for another ten minutes. He or she can also take time off and read a good book for 10 minutes or allot just 10 minutes for walking. All a student has to do is to be aware of the clock.
Elaborating it further, _we humans have a tendency to keep on delaying small things_. We know we have to pay bills on time, and still we delay it beyond the due dates. We are aware that our bike’s tyres need to get pumped, yet we don’t care to stop by the car-shop we pass every day. We promise ourselves to go to a temple on a particular day, yet we never seem to keep our own promise on time. Why? Because our mind wanders off and deems such things as unimportant. If we vow to take just 10 minutes or 20 minutes of our entire 24 hours, we would never procrastinate and our life will be million times better.”
 My dad concluded: “ The 10 minutes, if followed *consistently*, can have a tremendous effect in anyone’s lifestyle. *Procrastination* and *Idleness* will vanish away replaced by *Focus* and *Intensity*. People will tell you they are short of time. No time for the loved ones, no time for pursuing their dreams, no time to eat, no time for their health as if they are the most busiest people on earth! It’s the lamest excuse one can give.
*The 10 minutes mantra can keep us Organized, keep our otherwise disoriented thoughts in check, Balance our life fruitfully and help us to have enough time in our hands. So follow this 10 minutes mantra and see your life turn around at a miraculous pace…..!”*

Learning 570

Get your happiness out of your work, or you’ll never know what happiness is!

If your employment situation is absolutely intolerable, just quit. No company or boss is flawless, but you should invest 100 percent of your energy into being the best worker you can, or else leave the company entirely. In other words, “Get out or Get in Line.”

 

 

Learning 566

The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities. – Stephen R. Covey 

Learning 565

“If you think you are beaten, you are,

If you think you dare not, you don’t,

If you like to win, but you think you can’t,

It is almost certain you won’t.”

“If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost,

for out of the world we find,

Success begins with a fellow’s will –

It’s all in the state of mind.”

“If you think you are outclassed, you are,

You’ve got to think high to rise,

You’ve got to be sure of yourself before

You can ever win a price.”

“Life’s battles don’t always go

To the strongest or faster man,

But soon or late the man who wins

Is the man WHO THINKS HE CAN!”

Somewhere in the cells of your brain lies sleeping, the seed of achievement which, if aroused and put into action, would carry you to heights, such as you may never have hoped to attain.

Learning 563

“FAITH IS THE STATE OF MIND WHICH MAY BE INDUCED BY AUTO-SUGGESTION.”

All down the ages, the religionists have admonished struggling humanity “to have Faith” in this, that and the other dogma or creed, but they have failed to tell people How to have faith. They have not stated that “FAITH is the state of mind, and that it may be induced by self-suggestion.”

All that is known about the principle through which FAITH may be developed, where it does not already exist is:

Have FAITH in yourself, Faith is infinite.

FAITH is the “eternal elixir” which gives life, power, and action to the impulse of thought.

FAITH is the starting point of all accumulation of riches.

FAITH is the basis of all miracles, and all mysteries which cannot be analyzed by the rules of science.

FAITH is the only known antidote to FAILURE.

FAITH is the element, the “chemical” which, when mixed with prayer, gives one direct communication with Infinite Intelligence.

FAITH is the element which transforms the ordinary vibration of thought, created by the finite mind of man, into the spiritual equivalent.

FAITH is the only agency through which the cosmic force of Infinite Intelligence can be harnessed and used by man.

Learning 551

“I want to be thoroughly used up when I die.

For the harder I work, the more I live. I rejoice in life for its own sake.

Life is no brief candle to me. It’s a sort of splendid torch which I’ve got to hold up for the moment and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it to future generations.”

– George Bernard Shaw

Learning 550

One of the most wonderful things about time is the fact that you cannot waste it in advance.

Your future is spotless. No matter how much time you have squandered in the past, the next hour that comes your way will be perfect, unspoiled and ready for you to make the best use of it. No one is stopping you from rewriting the story of your life. If you so choose, tomorrow can be the day that you start getting up earlier, reading more, exercising, eating well and worrying less. This very moment you can change your story and create a new ending. Remember, it is never too late to become the person you have always wanted to be.

Learning 549

Don’t be so hard on yourself. Don’t dwell on your past mistakes reviewing how things could have been right. Learn from every mistake and see life for what it really is: a path of self discovery, personal growth and lifelong learning.

Learning 548

“If it’s going to be, it’s up to me.”

Begin to see yourself as the CEO of your destiny, the CEO of your life.

If we don’t act on life and take actions to make things happen, it will act on us and give us results we might not want.

Remember you can make excuses or you can make progress, but you cannot do both.