Category Archives: self-development

Learning 663

Having a better life starts with practicing self-discipline and developing the habit of delayed gratification.

Delayed gratification is the process of scheduling the pain and pleasure of life.

Let’s say you struggle with procrastination. Who among us hasn’t tackled the easy work first and then spent the rest of the day struggling with the boring and difficult stuff?

The author had a patient with this exact problem, and he advised her to start practicing delayed gratification by reversing her work habits.

This meant bearing down and dealing with the difficult stuff first. So instead of facing one easy hour followed by six miserable hours of dragging her feet, she could have one miserable hour followed by the reward of six enjoyable hours.

Discipline also means accepting responsibility, being truthful and striking a healthy balance in life.

Delayed gratification is just one of the tools that will help you bring discipline to your life.

Real self-discipline also requires that you accept responsibility for your own life.

Another tool that can improve your self-discipline is a dedication to truth, meaning that you honestly and openly face the reality of your life.

Now, this can be a tough one since it requires that you have a strong sense of self-reflection and be willing to constantly update your worldview.

Being open to self-analysis, and reflecting honestly on life, are part and parcel of personal growth.

The final tool for better discipline is balancing.
It means letting go and giving up the unhealthy habits and extreme behaviors that are throwing your life out of balance. These are things you may do because they add a thrill to your life, but which, in the end, tend not to turn out well.

Love is closely linked to our spiritual growth and self-discipline. Much has been written and said about the nature of love, but put simply, love is having the will to nurture your own spiritual growth, as well as that of someone else.

In this way, you can look at love as an important part of your evolution, since spiritual growth is about reaching a larger state of being.

It’s also important to understand that before you can love someone else, you first need to love yourself. It’s similar to a parent teaching a child how to behave in a disciplined manner. For this to happen, the parent must practice this discipline themselves.

To love someone means making an effort. It requires more than a mere desire to love. Most people desire, or want, to love, but few are in fact loving. Those with the will to grow spiritually have chosen to love and therefore they act lovingly.

Love is not a feeling but an action that requires attention and comes with risks. The feeling of love is related to cathecting, which means investing emotional energy in something or someone.

Love can even exist without that feeling we always associate with it, since true love is bigger than cathecting. In a well-functioning marriage, disagreements can happen, and tempers can flare, but the partners continue to work in tandem toward their goals. These are two people who made a commitment through their own volition, and that’s more important than any fleeting emotions.

However, for love to flourish it needs more than a commitment – it requires attention and the understanding that it can be lost.

Loving someone means giving them attention and supporting their growth. And this requires putting aside everything else to truly listen and concentrate on what your loved one is saying and experiencing. When you do this, you extend yourself and gain new knowledge about the person you love. But remember, you can’t love someone without the risk of losing them.


Learning 660

When you have  cultivated  a  deep  sense  of  faith  in  your  abilities  and an  indomitable  spirit,  nothing  can  stop  you  from  succeeding  in  all your  pursuits  and  living  with  great  rewards.  

Taking  the  time  to master  your  mind,  to  care  for  the  body  and  to  nourish  your  soul will  put  you  in  a  position  to  develop  more  richness  and  vitality  in your  life.  It  is  as  Epictetus  said  so  many  years  ago:  ‘No  man  is  free who  is  not  a  master  of  himself.’

“Kaizen”  is  actually  a  very  practical  concept. Very.  Think  about  it.  How  could  a  person  possibly  lead a  corporation  if  he  cannot  even  lead  himself?  How  could  you nurture  a  family  if  you  haven’t  learned  to  nurture  and  care  for yourself?  How  could  you  possibly  do  good  if  you  don’t  even  feel good?  Do  you get  the point?” 

We need to think far  more  than  the importance  of  daily  exercise, a  healthful  diet  and  a  balanced lifestyle. Its the  importance  of  building strength  of  character,  developing  mental  toughness  and  living with courage. These  three  attributes  would  lead one  not  only  to  a  virtuous  life  but  to  a  life  filled  with  achievement, satisfaction  and  inner  peace.  Courage  was  a  quality  everyone could  cultivate  and  one  that  would  pay  huge  dividends  over  the long  run. 

What  does  courage  have  to  do  with  self-leadership  and personal  development?”  One can wonder. 

“Courage allows you to  run  your  own  race.  Courage  allows  you to  do  whatever  you  want  to  do  because  you  know  that  it  is  right. Courage  gives  you  the  self-control  to  persist  where  others  have failed.”

Ultimately,  the  degree  of  courage  you  live  with  determines the  amount  of  fulfillment  you  receive.  It  allows  you  to  truly  realize all  the  exquisite  wonders  of  the  epic  that  is  your  life.  And  those who  master  themselves  have  an  abundance  of  courage.

Learning 629

Surprisingly, stress doesn’t necessarily make us likely to indulge in bad habits; when we’re anxious or tired, we fall back on our habits, whether bad or good. 

For this reason, it’s all the more important to try to shape habits mindfully, so that when we fall back on them at times of stress, we’re following activities that make our situation better, not worse.

Perfection may be an impossible goal, but habits help us to do better. 

Bhagwad Gita in one sentence per chapter

Chapter 1
Wrong thinking is the only problem in life.

Chapter 2

Right knowledge is the ultimate solution to all our problems.

Chapter 3

Selflessness is the only way to progress & prosperity.

Chapter 4

Every act can be an act of prayer.

Chapter 5

Renounce the ego of individuality & rejoice in the bliss of infinity.

Chapter 6

Connect to the Higher consciousness daily.

Chapter 7

Live what you learn.

Chapter 8

Never give up on yourself.

Chapter 9

Value your blessings.

Chapter 10

See divinity all around.

Chapter 11

Have enough surrender to see the Truth as it is.

Chapter 12

Absorb your mind in the Higher.

Chapter 13

Detach from Maya & attach to Divine.

Chapter 14

Live a lifestyle that matches your vision.

Chapter 15

Give priority to Divinity.

Chapter 16

Being good is a reward in itself.

Chapter 17

Choosing the right over the pleasant is a sign of power.

Chapter 18

Let Go, Lets move to union with Divine.

Learning 596

​Every time something doesn’t work out, you gain experience; something that will help you in the future. The times you failed, they weren’t wasted. You gained insight and it was all a part of God’s plan. Don’t complain about the trouble. You have big challenges because you have a big destiny. – Joel Osteen

Learning 587

Lessons from this picture: 1. Not all opportunities are to be taken. Some are traps. 

2. A person can become so determined to destroy another person that they become blind and end up destroying themselves. 

3. You fight best in your natural element and environment. Here the bird has advatange in his natural element. 

4. Know your limits, we all have them. 

5. Sometimes the best response to provocation is not to fight. 

6. Sometimes to accomplish something you need team work, you will not always win alone. 

7. Stick to what you do best and don’t pursue what will kill you. 

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Learning 549

Don’t be so hard on yourself. Don’t dwell on your past mistakes reviewing how things could have been right. Learn from every mistake and see life for what it really is: a path of self discovery, personal growth and lifelong learning.