Category Archives: success

Learning 692

A lucky start in life means being taught as a child that your life is in your control.

Lucky children are happy children, and you can make your kids luckier by teaching them the principles of life from an early age.

To increase a child’s luck, you should show them the wealth of opportunities available to them, while refraining from forcing them down any particular path.

Dr. Jessica Levenstein, from the Horace Mann School, in New York, believes that children (and, by extension, adults) will be happier if they believe their lives are governed by their own actions, as opposed to by external actors. She explains that parents who refuse to allow their children to be educated by specific teachers – because, say, that teacher has a poor reputation – often stifle their children’s independence and learning.

For instance, the author once wanted to change her son’s teacher, but was encouraged by the school principal to approach the situation with a positive attitude and not get involved. Ultimately, her son and his teacher ended up getting along well and being a great fit for one another.

The author also talks about her own father’s habit of ignoring her report cards, and concerning himself instead with how she felt she had done.

By letting children see the effects of their own efforts, even if those efforts are mistakes, they’re able to learn a lot about themselves and the world.

Another thing you can teach children is that they don’t have to follow conventional paths.

In high school, Bill Gates and Paul Allen founded a tiny data-analysis business that didn’t really succeed but nonetheless went on to form the basis of Microsoft. Gates was amazed that his father, who had spoken with the headmaster, gave him the go-ahead rather than pushing him to focus on his studies. By allowing him to pursue seemingly unimportant adventures, his parents allowed the space to develop the self-belief that would later make him the successful and lucky billionaire we know today.

As you can see, it’s extremely important to build the foundations of success by showing children that they have control over their own decisions.

Luck is more in our control than we think. By following the principles outlined here – that is, combining hard work, talent and chance, and preparing and putting yourself in places where opportunity is likely to strike – you can increase your susceptibility to luck.

Actionable advice:

Steer through life with a compass, not a map.

To find the places where the opportunities to become lucky are high, you need to have a plan. But an overly rigid plan – that is, clearly defined life map – can cause you to miss those important opportunities. So trade out your map for a compass. If you know the general direction you wish to go in, you will be able to adapt if the landscape changes around you. It requires courage and self-confidence, but walking your own path will lead you to opportunities that might just change your luck.

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Learning 691

People often resist happiness, but controlled breathing can help us overcome this fear.

No one said life would be easy, and sometimes it can really feel like an endless swamp of problems, but ask yourself this: Are you really prepared for a life of happiness?

Can you even imagine an entire day without having something to complain about?

Everyone has their own inner resistance to happiness, an oddly human trait that deserves some close scrutiny.

Despite spending a lot of time and energy striving for happiness, human beings aren’t especially comfortable or skilled at feeling good or being at peace.

School teaches us a lot of things, but there are no high school classes on how to deal with success and happiness.

If you were to take the time to look within and uncover why you resist happiness, the answer would likely be related to fear – a fear of achieving your full potential.

Because here’s the thing: when you become the best you can be, that means there’s no more excuse for why you aren’t making your dreams come true.

This is a fear that must be conquered if you truly want success and happiness. Taking the big leap into a life of happiness requires a great deal of confidence.

So let’s explore the ways you can learn to overcome this fear and start taking the right kinds of risks.

The first technique for breaking the fear barrier is breathing.

Back in the mid-1900s, psychiatrist Fritz Perls developed Gestalt therapy, which recognized that fear is, essentially, a sort of breathless excitement.

With some focused breathing, you can transform that fear into a positive and powerful excitement that can be used to make great things happen.

Let’s say you’re about to take the stage for a performance or to give a speech. The common reaction to a scary situation like this is for our breath to become constricted, which only makes the fear stronger.

But if you take a moment to breathe deeply, you can take control and transform the fear into the powerful energy that lets you take the stage and captivate your audience.

Learning 682

Back your PMA (Positive Mental Attitude) with determination.

A PMA gives you a solid grounding for success but it must be accompanied by determination and motivation. 

Rather than blaming all your difficulties on the world, you should set about changing it into a place you want to live in. 

When you feel determined to make a difference, your motivation will soar, which will allow you to reach new heights in your life. 

Someone who embodied passionate determination and motivation is farmer Milo Jones. Due to a severe illness, Jones became paralyzed. Although his body no longer served him, his head was working overtime and he began figuring out how to accomplish certain tasks in the most effective way. With this motivation, determination and PMA, he managed to convert his little corn farm into an empire that sold Jones’ Little Pork Sausages, which made him a millionaire.

But keep in mind that along with your determination, you’ll also need goals.
It’s best to write your goals down and attach a deadline to them. For example, anyting what you want to achieve by the end of the year. 

The higher you set your goals, the more you’ll fight for them and the more you’ll achieve.
If you have a particularly challenging goal, you should break it down into smaller goals that you can achieve in the next week or month to build up to the end goal.

So, for example, if your dream is to learn Spanish, a lofty goal would be speaking it perfectly, which may take years. But when divided into smaller goals, like ordering your first beer successfully or reading a novel in Spanish, these smaller triumphs will help you stay focused and motivated.

Learning 680

Reach your goals by developing a positive mental attitude.
To many of us, success is a mysterious thing. Is it the result of favorable conditions over which we have no real control? Does it come down to knowing the right people, or having the right timing? No, no and no. In fact, success is about having a positive mental attitude (PMA).

The level of your success directly corresponds to whether you nurture your PMA – or its rival, your negative mental attitude (NMA).

People with PMA are success magnets. They approach life with positivity, and they’re unfazed by failures or mistakes; in fact, they see missteps as opportunities. To someone with a PMA, each failure is a step that brings you closer to a solution.

Because they’re unafraid of failure, such people are unafraid of trying, even if success seems unlikely. They’re eager to try, and hungry for self-improvement. Those with a PMA achieve greatness because they burn to accomplish new goals and ascend to new heights.

Learning 662

The Energy Bus – By Jon Gordon

10 rules for a new life. 

The first rule: become the driver of your own bus and take back control.

The second rule: with vision and focus, you can drive the bus in the direction you want.

Law of attraction.
According to this concept, all thoughts are magnetic, which means the things you think about will begin showing up in your life. Just take Olympic athletes, many of whom use the law of attraction by visualizing their best performances before entering a competition. Often this results in gold-medal wins. 

Just take the formula E + P = O. It says that Events + Perception/Positive Energy = Outcome. 

In other words, there are lots of things you’ve got no control over, but what you do control is how you perceive those events. So, by choosing to have positive thoughts, rather than negative ones, you can achieve better results.

The rule number three: This is key since positive energy is the fuel for your journey and it will keep your bus moving forward. But how can you keep that fuel tank topped up?

Sometimes it just requires approaching things from a different perspective.

If you have a lot of work to do, it can help to feel grateful for having a job in the first place, knowing that lots of people struggle to get work at all.

Such a simple act of gratitude will release endorphins and make you feel better before you know it. 

The rule number four: Tell people about your vision and ask them to join you on your journey. Whether it’s at work with your colleagues or at home with your partner, happiness and success often rely on teamwork.

It’s simple: the more people you get on your bus, the more positive energy you’ll have to fuel your ride and the more successful your results will be.

No one creates success in a vaccum and the people we surround ourselves with have a big influence on the life and success we create. 

The rule number five: Don’t waste energy on people who don’t share your vision; remove negative people whenever you can.

Save your energy and don’t try to convince people who aren’t ready to get on board. Just remember, if they’re full of negativity, they’ll only slow you down.

And if negative people do get on your bus, it’s essential to remove them as soon as you can. You might notice passengers who complain along the way. You can think of these people as vampires who suck out your positivity and vision.

The rule number six: is to get Energy Vampires off of your bus. To put it another way, if you have negative people on your team, sit them down and have a talk. Try to determine where their negative attitude comes from and how you can work together. If they’re unwilling to change, you have to let them go.

Or, in situations where you can’t get rid of problematic people, say your boss or supervisor, find ways to boost your own positive energy. If you can, you’ll outweigh the negativity they bring into your life.

Other people can feel your emotions and be inspired by your enthusiasm.

In other words, people around us can perceive the way we feel and respond to it. That’s why people can tell when someone is insincere. But it also means that when people are truly passionate about something, they share that enthusiasm and those positive emotions with others.

Because of this, it’s key to energize your whole bus, but when you do so, it’s also important it’s done with true enthusiasm. 

The rule number seven: enthusiasm will make more people join you and motivate them along the ride. In fact, the word “enthusiasm” comes from the Greek word entheos, meaning “inspired” or “filled with the divine.”

As long as you’re excited about your work and the tasks you’re doing, everyone around you will feel the same. This is the kind of positive energy you need to fuel your ride for the long haul.

The author events has a name for it your CEO or Chief Energy Officer. People who fill this role infect their team members, employees and even customers with powerful positive energy that inspires and propels them.

Make your passengers feel valued by giving them your time and recognition.

You’ve probably noticed that you work harder when others recognize your efforts and care about you. It seems obvious, but it points to a deeper human need for appreciation.

In other words, by loving your team members, you can make them feel good, but also motivate them to do their best work and follow you wherever you go. 

The rule number eight: is to love the passengers on your bus.

Here’s how.

First, be sure to take your time and listen. Remember, love and relationships need a while to develop and blossom. So, just as you need to spend time with your partner to build your relationship, you’ve got to spend time with your employees. Regular individual meetings are essential; they offer an opportunity for you to get to know your team personally.

For instance, you should never send an electronic birthday message. Rather, write out real birthday cards for each person on your team.

The rule number nine: Purpose and fun will propel you to new heights. Its needed to understand that purpose makes the work easier. 

A story about President Johnson and a janitor at NASA offers a great example. The president was visiting the space program when he encountered a custodian enthusiastically cleaning the floors. The president told the man that he was probably the best janitor he had ever met, to which the janitor responded, “Sir, I’m not a janitor. I just helped put a man on the moon.”

It just goes to show that, with a higher purpose, you can easily accomplish everyday tasks, and that’s why rule number nine is to let yourself be driven by a higher purpose. Most importantly, purpose and fun can enable stellar performances. 

Last rule, number ten: you have got to have fun on your ride. After all, success is much easier to attain when you’re enjoying yourself, rather than stressing out.

Learning 661

Benjamin  Disraeli  said:  ‘The  secret  of  success  is constancy  of  purpose.’  

The  happiness  you  are  searching  for  comes through  reflecting  on  the  worthy  aims  you are  dedicated  to achieving  and  then  taking action  daily  to  advance  them.  This  is  a direct application  of  the  timeless  philosophy  which prescribes  that those  things  which  are  most important  should  never  be  sacrificed to  those things  which  are  the  least  important.  

Learning 656

The  secret  of  happiness  is  simple:  find  out what you truly  love to do and then direct all of your energy towards doing it.  

If  you  study  the  happiest,  healthiest,  most  satisfied  people  of our  world,  you  will  see  that  each  and  every  one  of  them  has  found their  passion  in  life,  and  then  spent  their  days  pursuing  it.  

This calling  is  almost  always  one  that,  in  some  way,  serves  others.  Once you  are  concentrating  your  mind  power  and  energy  on  a  pursuit that  you  love,  abundance  flows  into  your  life,  and  all  your  desires are  fulfilled  with  ease  and  grace.” 

“So  simply  figure  out  what  turns  you  on  and  then  do  it?” 

Victor  Frankl  said  it  more  elegantly  when  he  wrote:  ‘Success,  like  happiness,  cannot  be pursued.  It  must  ensue.  And  it  only  does  so  as  the  unintended  side effect  of  one’s  personal  dedication  to  a  cause  greater  than  oneself.’ 

Once  you  find  out  what  your  life’s  work  is,  your  world  will  come alive.  You  will  wake  up  every  morning  with  a  limitless  reservoir  of energy  and  enthusiasm.  

All  your  thoughts  will  be  focused  on  your definite  objective.  You  won’t  have  time  to  waste  time.  

Valuable mental  power  will,  therefore,  not  be  wasted  on  trifling  thoughts. You  will  automatically  erase  the  worry  habit  and  become  far  more effective  and  productive.  

Interestingly,  you  will  also  have  a  deep sense  of  inner  harmony,  as  if  you  are  somehow  being  guided  to realize  your  mission.  It  is  a  wonderful  feeling.